| Adapted from two online discussions, here and here. Dear Carolyn: My mother-in-law is great. Lives far away and comes to visit for a week or two at a time 3 to 4 times a year. She is helpful and easy to get along with, helpful with the kids. She’s started leaving many of her belongings in our guest room. Admittedly she uses our guest room more than anyone, but this frustrates me. After she leaves, I don’t like having to put away her toiletries and her growing pile of clothes into the bottom drawer. Other friends and family also use this room, and I don’t want it to feel like someone else occupies it. It also feels to me like a boundary violation — she needs to recognize she is a guest, this is not “her place.” I recognize I may be making a mountain out of a molehill, and maybe I should just drop it and be grateful for the relatively smooth in-law relationship. Looking for your insight. — Annoyed | 
