| Dear Carolyn: I have a financial dilemma with my partner of 15 years. For most of our relationship I’ve made more money and carried the majority of the rent and utilities. I quit my well-paying tech job two years ago because of burnout and stress. Since then, I’ve been using savings to continue to cover 3/4 of our expenses. He has a good job now, and I’ve asked to split expenses 50-50 multiple times. He refuses, saying he can’t afford it. I know his salary and he can. I’m going back to grad school for a career change, which I’m really excited about, and I’m feeling fulfilled for the first time in a long time. However, I can’t continue to use up my savings at the same pace. I suggested moving to a less expensive place so we can split 50-50, and he still refuses. He keeps hinting that I should go back into tech so I can keep supporting our lifestyle. It’s become a major tension and causes many fights. We never used to fight like this and it’s making me rethink the entire relationship. — San Francisco | 
