| Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: Last Saturday, I went to a wedding and had an amazing time. I danced and laughed, and a really nice guy asked for my number. I thought I looked good and was so happy with the outfit I had picked out. After I posted some pictures, my mom called to let me know how awful I looked. She said my dress was too tight and I needed “a lot more makeup” and a better hairstyle. When I told her several people complimented me, she said they felt sorry for me. This is nothing new. Anytime I post pictures of myself, especially when I’m dressed up, she does this. I’ve repeatedly told her to quit criticizing my looks, but she refuses and says it’s her “duty.” Now, I’m pretty sure most moms want to make their child feel good about themselves, not tear them down and make them insecure. When I lived at home, my mother used to pick out all my clothes, but I hated her taste. It was more suitable for someone her age, all dark muddy colors, polyester and acrylic knit crap, and she made me get my hair blown out straight. I prefer natural fibers, bright colors and my natural waves. I know this is boundary time where I start refusing to listen to her criticisms, but it’s really depressing that your own mom treats you this way. I’m starting to feel she must dislike me on some level. Is that a fair reaction? — Hurt | 
