Dear Eric: I am in a 12-step program. We have rules about anonymity and confidentiality, specifically that what is shared in a meeting stays at the meeting, and I trust that this applies to information shared between members and their sponsors outside of the meetings. In a recent meeting, my sponsor, “Sally,” used her sharing time to talk about another sponsee, who wasn’t present. She proceeded to describe in significant detail how the sponsee appeared to be completely in her old addiction.