| Adapted from an online discussion. Hello, Carolyn: Early 60s, retired from my job two months ago. Was glad to do so. Though I did enjoy the teamwork, I have never been really career driven as some of my friends are. Work to live, not the reverse. Paid off my mortgage, don’t feel depressed as such — but seem to be paralyzed by options, and frightened. With the recent death of a much-loved uncle, I am very aware of how quickly time can pass. I want to enjoy leisure and down time but not vegetate. Today I had booked a swimming session, but I did not feel like going out, so I ended up staying in bed for hours. Now I feel stupid and guilty. Should I force myself to make a list and keep to it? That is what I did at work, though. I spent years organizing others, and now I find it hard to organize myself. I am grateful for any thoughts. — Happy Retirement? Read your responses to this week’s reader question We asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. Column Carolyn Hax and Haben Kelati | | | | 
