| Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: When our parents downsized to a more manageable home, my four adult siblings and I effectively lost our gathering spot. Add kids growing up and busy weekends, and it seems as though we’ve drifted apart. There were certainly existing tensions between a few members and in-laws, but we still made it a point to get together and celebrate occasions or just hang out. I miss them sometimes, but I also sometimes don’t, and I am not sure how to process it. Is this what happens over time to well-meaning but busy families? Some of us still get together with our closest sibling or where our kids are close. We’re a Brady Bunch and have gravitated to our biological family members. Eventually, we will need to collaborate to care for our parents, so I do feel some effort is needed to maintain relationships. But if they aren’t reaching out, should I? I’ve been the default coordinator throughout the years, but our house is too small to host, and I am burned out in general so have little left to give. — Set Adrift Answer this week’s reader question Here's your chance to channel your inner Carolyn Hax and respond to a reader question. | 
