| Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I’m moving in with my boyfriend next month. We’re in our 30s and have been living independently for most of our adult lives. Things are generally great, and we’re hoping to get married soon. But I’ve suddenly got this feeling of dread that it won’t work out, that I’ll have to give up a lot of control, that maybe we’re not compatible after all, that maybe there’s a huge values clash. This feeling kind of came out of nowhere, but I’m having trouble shaking it. It’s making small decisions and disagreements seem like insurmountable heralds of doom. Any advice? — Moving In Answer this week’s reader question Here's your chance to channel your inner Carolyn Hax and respond to a reader question. | 
