He hasn't replied in two days… You know you shouldn't text him. Every rational part of you knows that. And yet you can’t stop thinking about him and you've already got a draft message ready to be sent in your notes. So you call your friend. She tells you to dump his ass. You then downplay how bad he’s treated you. You open ChatGPT and ask it to help you word a casual check-in message that doesn't sound desperate. It gives you three options. Neither of which show you what’s actually going on. Because the urge to text isn't really about him. It's what you always do. Someone shows you who they are and instead of accepting what they’ve shown you?
You make excuses for them.
You justify why you should give it another go.
Instead of being honest with yourself, you end up campaigning (and lying) for someone you know isn’t good for you.
That's a pattern running. And when a pattern is running, what you need isn't validation. You need to be called out. Brutally. That's what Ask Felicity is for. |
