Volatile ex-friend is back in my orbit. What do I do? Give advice to this Hax question. Dear Carolyn: Dear Carolyn: I had a friend. She was funny and full of spirit. I met her through a mutual friend and, for years, the three of us were each other’s best buddies. My daughter was flower girl in her wedding. Later, we were both pregnant at the same time. She regularly brightened my days. Although she had a habit of sometimes saying things that lacked insight or emotional maturity, my other friend and I generally overlooked these moments as just one of her quirks. Sometimes when we teased her about that, she could laugh about it, too. One day, however, at my child’s birthday party, she verbally attacked my husband for something related to his work, but did so in an extremely personal way. I was not there to hear it, but it created some tension for a bit. I chalked it up to her passion and soon forgave her. A few months later, she did it again. It felt like she dropped a bomb on my husband and the shrapnel was hitting me… |
