Opinion: Sometimes it’s fine to end a mostly good marriage
The case for separating.
From The Times
December 29, 2025

The author Cathi Hanauer, a co-founder of the Modern Love column, makes the case for separating after a long and loving marriage.

A black-and-white image of a person’s head looking out to sea while holding up a mirror that hides the face but reflects the water and landscape beyond it.

Julia Forrest

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