| Dear Carolyn: My fiancée and I got engaged and started talking about an engagement ring. I know she loves jewelry. She wears a lot of it, most of it made by friends of hers, and I’m big on the symbolism of this gesture, so we were both excited about picking one out. In return, she wants to buy me an engagement gift of a new set of golf clubs I’ve been wanting, and that’s great. After I told her the budget for her ring, she showed me some stuff she likes by a jewelry artist she knows. She said she was thinking of getting two: one with a huge black stone and lots of carvings, another one with leaves and a skinny multicolor stone. She said that way, she could wear whichever one fits her mood or outfit. The two together would be less than the budget I set, but I’m confused about the idea of two engagement rings. I want to get her something special that she’ll wear for the rest of her life. She wants something that, to me, is almost like costume jewelry. She thinks it’s her call since she’ll be wearing them, and I can see that, but I’m unhappy about the idea of two rings. She pointed out that I’m getting the exact set of golf clubs I want, so she should get the ring(s) she wants. Is this something we need to work out, or do I just shut up and get her what she wants? — Unhappy | 
