| Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My mother is a raging alcoholic, as in been-hospitalized-multiple-times alcoholic. Three months ago, after alcohol-induced pancreatitis where she couldn’t keep anything down, including vodka, she was hospitalized for two weeks to detox. It was ugly. She looked my sister in the eye and said, “You’re going to die.” She screamed at the nurses and had to be strapped down. She is now acting like nothing happened. We went out to dinner, and she tried to order a martini. I told her she almost died from alcohol and I wasn’t going to be present if she was drinking. She didn’t order the drink but took an Uber home. Now we are discussing her coming to visit us — me, my husband and toddler daughter, my sister, and my grandparents — for Thanksgiving. She lives in a different state. Do I stick to my guns if she starts drinking on Thanksgiving and leave? Do I pretend not to see? — Setting Boundaries | 
